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In the Pursuers Community I asked all of you what topics you were interested in me discussing. One of my dear friends suggested a podcast on marriage. Marriage is especially difficult right now, especially when we have challenges like the ones we are facing right now, in quarantine. I welcomed David and Laurie Re to the podcast, a beautiful couple that has been married for almost 14 years. They have two amazing boys, ages 9 and 12. They always say, “When opposites attract, they’re right!” We will discuss their challenges over the past decade and a half and how they overcame them. They believe every single marriage has hope and the ability to thrive.
I welcome Dave and Laurie to the podcast and asked them a little bit about themselves. They explain how they first met and began dating in high school and have been together for more than half their lives! (They have been married almost 14 years.) The couple explains a very difficult time they walked through together, one which almost ended their marriage.
[14:41] Dave and Laurie explain the common stressors in a marriage. In today’s world (quarantine, economic challenges, home schooling, etc.) we are trying to figure out a “new normal” and they explained how they had to reconfigure their roles. It takes a ton of communication, practice and intentionality to accomplish this. It is often easier to blame someone else instead of TOGETHER working towards the problem. This is an evergreen topic that doesn’t go away. We are in a challenging time now, but there is no guarantee our marriages won’t experience another stressor in the future. We must adapt and react and we must do it as a team.
[21:56] Dave and Laurie explain the tools they use to get through challenging times. Laurie explained how she prayed for Dave and how they use prayer as a way to connect and grow. Dave explained how they utilized the 5 love languages in their relationship recovery. It helped them to learn how to communicate more effectively. They explain how we often love people the way we want to receive love as opposed to how they accept love. That can cause challenges and create issues in marriage, unintentionally.
[36:22] Dave and Laurie share one more tip: Taking the time to TALK. They fell into a habit of only talking about schedules, like two business partners managing a household. Laurie felt her kids needed more attention than her husband and that Dave was just another person loving in her house that she had to take care of. She explains how Dave was easier to put on the back burner. She emphasized the importance of remembering who she married first. Their kids then see a healthy relationship because they reprioritized their attention and love. They suggested date nights at home and having pre-made questions to reconnect during these conversations.
The closed by impressing the importance of avoiding big decisions when you are in a valley in life, whether it be in business, life or marriage. Marriage is worth fighting for.
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